Graces of Culture and Kindness
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Christ Our Exemplar of Etiquette—Real refinement of thought
and manner is better learned in the school of the divine Teacher than
by any observance of set rules. His love pervading the heart gives to
the character those refining touches that fashion it in the semblance of
His own. This education imparts a heaven-born dignity and sense of
propriety. It gives a sweetness of disposition and a gentleness of man-
ner that can never be equaled by the superficial polish of fashionable
society.—
Education, 241
(1903).
True Etiquette—Broad Sympathy and Kindness—Many who
lay great stress upon etiquette show little respect for anything, however
excellent, that fails of meeting their artificial standard. This is false
education. It fosters critical pride and narrow exclusiveness.
The essence of true politeness is consideration for others. The
essential, enduring education is that which broadens the sympathies
and encourages universal kindness.—
Education, 241
(1903).
Tenderness and Kindness—You both need a gentler touch. Your
words are to soothe, not to harass. Let your hearts be filled with love
for souls. With a deep, tender interest, work for those around you.
If you see one making a mistake, go to him in the way Christ has
pointed out in His Word, and see if you cannot talk the matter over
with Christlike tenderness. Pray with him, and believe that the Saviour
will show you the way out of the difficulty.
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Ministers need much of the grace of God in order to do their work
acceptably. When a minister finds the members of a church arrayed
against one another, let him call a halt, and endeavor to bring about
a harmonious understanding. Let him never give sharp, dictatorial
advice or orders. This is not necessary. It is labor worse than wasted....
The Lord calls upon you to exert an uplifting influence. Receive
into the heart the truths of God’s Word. Only thus can you have the
mind of God. Place yourselves under the molding influence of the
Holy Spirit. Then you will have much greater power for good....
Wherever the love of Jesus reigns, there is peace and rest. Where
this love is cherished, it is as a refreshing stream in a desert, trans-
forming barrenness into fertility.—
Manuscript 105, 1902
.
Tact and Good Judgment Melt Hearts—Tact and good judg-
ment increase the usefulness of the laborer a hundredfold. If he will
speak the right words at the right time, and show the right spirit, this