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True Refinement, July 6
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To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all
meekness unto all men.
Titus 3:2
The essence of true politeness is consideration for others. The es-
sential, enduring education is that which broadens the sympathies and
encourages universal kindliness. That so-called culture which does not
make a youth deferential toward his parents, appreciative of their excel-
lences, forbearing toward their defects, and helpful to their necessities;
which does not make him considerate and tender, generous and helpful
toward the young, the old, and the unfortunate, and courteous toward all,
is a failure.
Real refinement of thought and manner is better learned in the school
of the divine Teacher than by any observance of set rules. His love
pervading the heart gives to the character those refining touches that
fashion it in the semblance of His own. This education imparts a heaven-
born dignity and sense of propriety. It gives a sweetness of disposition
and a gentleness of manner that can never be equaled by the superficial
polish of fashionable society.
The Bible enjoins courtesy, and it presents many illustrations of the
unselfish spirit, the gentle grace, the winsome temper, that characterize
true politeness. These are but reflections of the character of Christ. All
the real tenderness and courtesy in the world, even among those who
do not acknowledge His name, is from Him. And He desires these
characteristics to be perfectly reflected in His children. It is His purpose
that in us men shall behold His beauty.
What rays of softness and beauty shone forth in the daily life of our
Saviour! What sweetness flowed from His very presence! ... Those with
whom Christ dwells will be surrounded with a divine atmosphere. Their
white robes of purity will be fragrant with perfume from the garden of
the Lord.
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