Remarriage in Old Age
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George I. Butler’s Desire to Remarry
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Elder Butler’s first wife died November 18, 1901, leaving him a
widower at the age of 67. Even though he had Ellen White’s approval,
opposition from Mrs. Keck and from Hiland Butler, Elder Butler’s
son, kept him from going forward with his intention to marry Mrs.
Keck’s sister in 1902. In 1907, at the age of 73, he finally married
again.
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May, 1902
Dear Brother and Sister Keck,
My mind has been burdened during the night season. I have learned
that Brother Butler has thought of marrying Sister Keck’s sister. Some
of the brethren, in talking with me about this matter, expressed their dis-
approval, saying that they thought that such a step would hurt Brother
Butler’s influence, especially should he marry so soon after his wife’s
death. At the time I gave the subject scarcely a thought, but in the
night season I was talking with one in regard to the matter, and the
subject assumed a different aspect.
Then I seemed to be talking with someone else, of whom I was
asking the question, “Why do you regard this attachment as so objec-
tionable?” The answer was, “He is so much older than she is.” “But,” I
said, “would it be proper or wise for him to marry a woman of his own
age? What help could such a woman be to him in his ministry? At his
age, Elder Butler should have the care that only a wife can give. If this
young woman has a desire to give him this care, why should anyone
forbid her? She is, I understand, about thirty-five years old.”
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Sister Haskell married Elder Haskell because she was convinced
that he needed a helper in his work. The difference in their ages seemed
to Elder Haskell to be a barrier against their union. He asked my
opinion and advice. I said, “If her mind is drawn out in this direction,
do not hesitate. You need the help of a spiritual-minded, intelligent
woman, who can sustain and encourage you in your work.” They were
married, and the Lord has greatly blessed their union, making their
lives doubly useful to His cause and work.
May it not be possible that the hand of the Lord is in this attachment
between Elder Butler and Sister Keck’s sister? What others may think
in regard to this matter is not to find any place in our reckoning. We