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course of the individual through life. The youth may become vicious
or virtuous, as they choose. They may as well be distinguished for true
and noble deeds as for great crime and wickedness.—
The Signs of the
Times, October 11, 1910
. (
Child Guidance, 196
.)
A Day-by-Day Experience—The intellect is continually receiv-
ing its mold from opportunities and advantages, ill or well improved.
Day by day we form characters which place the students as well-
disciplined soldiers under the banner of Prince Emmanuel, or rebels
under the banner of the prince of darkness. Which shall it be?—
The
Gospel Herald, Jaunuary, 1880
. (
Child Guidance, 199, 200
.)
How Character Is Formed—It is very delicate work to deal with
human minds. The discipline necessary for one would crush another;
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therefore let parents study the characters of their children. Never be
abrupt and act from impulse.
I have seen a mother snatch something from the hand of her child
which was giving it special pleasure, and the child would not under-
stand what to make of the deprivation. The little one burst forth into a
cry, for it felt abused and injured. Then the parent, to stop its crying,
gave it a sharp chastisement, and as far as outward appearances were
concerned, the battle was over. But that battle left its impression on
the tender mind of the child, and it could not be easily effaced. I said
to the mother, “You have deeply wronged your child. You have hurt its
soul and lost its confidence in you. How this will be restored I know
not.”
This mother was very unwise; she followed her feelings and did not
move cautiously, reasoning from cause to effect. Her harsh, injudicious
management stirred up the worst passions in the heart of her child.
To act from impulse in governing a family is the very worst of policy.
When parents contend with their children in such a way, it is a most
unequal struggle that ensues. How unjust it is to put years and maturity
of strength against a helpless, ignorant little child! Every exhibition of
anger on the part of the parents confirms rebellion in the heart of the
child.
It is not through one act that the character is formed, but by a
repetition of acts that habits are established and character confirmed.
To have a Christlike character it is necessary to act in a Christlike way.
Christians will exhibit a holy temper, and their actions and impulses