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Speak Words That Give Courage and Hope—There is many a
brave soul sorely pressed by temptation, almost ready to faint in the
conflict with self and with the powers of evil. Do not discourage such
a one in his hard struggle. Cheer him with brave, hopeful words that
shall urge him on his way. Thus the light of Christ may shine from you.
“None of us liveth to himself” (
Romans 14:7
). By our unconscious
influence others may be encouraged and strengthened, or they may be
discouraged and repelled from Christ and the truth.—
Steps to Christ,
120
(1892).
Little Courtesies and Affectionate Words—It is the little atten-
tions, the numerous small incidents and simple courtesies of life, that
make up the sum of life’s happiness; and it is the neglect of kindly,
encouraging, affectionate words and the little courtesies of life which
helps compose the sum of life’s wretchedness. It will be found at last
that the denial of self for the good and happiness of those around us
constitutes a large share of the life record in heaven. And the fact
will also be revealed that the care of self, irrespective of the good
and happiness of others, is not beneath the notice of our heavenly
Father.—
Testimonies for the Church 2:133, 134
(1868).
Guard Against Scorn, Indifference, or Sneers—All are to
gather the precious treasures of love, not merely for favorites, but
for every soul who has his hand and heart in the work of the ministry;
for all who do this work are the Lord’s. Through them He works.
Learn lessons of love from the life of Jesus.
Let men be careful how they speak to their fellowmen. There is to
be no egotism, no lording it over God’s heritage. A bitter sneer should
not rise in any mind or heart. No tinge of scorn should be heard in the
voice. Speak a word of your own; take an indifferent attitude; show
suspicion, prejudice, jealousy; and by mismanagement the work will
be done for a soul.—Lt 50, 1897.
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Faultfinding and Rebukes Encourage Deception—My brother,
your overbearing words hurt your children. As they advance in years
their tendency to criticize will grow. Faultfinding is corrupting your
life and is extending to your wife and to your children. Your children
are not encouraged to give you their confidence or to acknowledge
their faults, because they know that your stern rebuke is sure to follow.
Your words are often as a desolating hail which breaks down tender
plants. It is impossible to estimate the harm thus done. Your children