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Entire Submission Only to Jesus—God requires that the wife
shall keep the fear and glory of God ever before her. Entire submission
is to be made only to the Lord Jesus Christ, who has purchased her
as His own child by the infinite price of His life.... Her individuality
cannot be merged into that of her husband, for she is the purchase of
Christ.—
Letter 18b, 1891
(
The Adventist Home, 116
.)
Thought That Union Is a Mistake Not to Be Harbored—
Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements may arise, let
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neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that their union is a mis-
take or a disappointment. Determine to be all that it is possible to be to
each other. Continue the early attentions. In every way encourage each
other in fighting the battles of life. Study to advance the happiness
of each other. Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then
marriage, instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very
beginning of love. The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds
heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven.—
The Ministry of
Healing, 360
(1905).
Relationship Controlled by Reason—Those who regard the mar-
riage relation as one of God’s sacred ordinances, guarded by His holy
precept, will be controlled by the dictates of reason. They will con-
sider carefully the result of every privilege the marriage relation grants.
Such will feel that their children are precious jewels committed to
their keeping by God, to remove from their natures the rough sur-
face by discipline, that their luster may appear. They will feel under
most solemn obligations to so form their characters that they may do
good in their life, bless others with their light, and the world be better
for their having lived in it, and they be finally fitted for the higher
life, the better world, to shine in the presence of God and the Lamb
forever.—
Healthful Living, 48, 1865
(Part 2) .
A Well-organized Family—The family firm should be well orga-
nized. Together the father and mother should consider their respon-
sibilities. Together they should work for the highest good of their
children. There is to be no variance between them. Never should they
in the presence of their children criticize each other’s plans or question
each other’s judgment. If the wife is inexperienced, she should try to
find out where her work makes the work for her husband more difficult
as he labors for the salvation of the children. And the husband should
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