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and wife should be linked together in holy bonds of union, under Jesus
Christ, with Him to control, and His spirit to guide.
God wants the home to be the happiest place on earth, the very
symbol of the home in heaven. Bearing the marriage responsibilities
in the home, linking their interests with Jesus Christ, leaning upon His
arm and His assurance, husband and wife may share a happiness in
this union that angels of God commend
When Differences Arise
It is a hard matter to adjust family difficulties, even when husband
and wife seek to make a fair and just settlement in regard to their
several duties, if they have failed to submit the heart to God. How can
husband and wife divide the interests of their home life and still keep a
loving, firm hold upon each other? They should have a united interest
in all that concerns their homemaking, and the wife, if a Christian, will
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have her interest with her husband as his companion; for the husband
is to stand as the head of the household.
Your spirit is wrong. When you take a position, you do not weigh
the matter well and consider what must be the effect of your main-
taining your views and in an independent manner weaving them into
your prayers and conversation, when you know that your wife does not
hold the same views that you do. Instead of respecting the feelings of
your wife and kindly avoiding, as a gentleman would, those subjects
upon which you know you differ, you have been forward to dwell upon
objectionable points, and have manifested a persistency in expressing
your views regardless of any around you. You have felt that others had
no right to see matters differently from yourself. These fruits do not
grow upon the Christian tree.
My brother, my sister, open the door of the heart to receive Jesus.
Invite him into the soul-temple. Help each other to overcome the
obstacles which enter the married life of all. You will have a fierce
conflict to overcome your adversary the devil, and if you expect God to
help you in this battle, you must both unite in deciding to overcome, to
seal your lips against speaking any words of wrong, even if you have
to fall upon your knees and cry aloud, “Lord, rebuke the adversary of
my soul.”
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